Bali Trip

Bali part 1: Getting There

I got off the plane at the airport and went to the restroom. I was looking at the art and sculptures on my way in and almost bumped into an airport employee washing his hands. I stopped to look in the mirror, and watched him instead. He was fixing his hair with the finger comb and pulled out a black casing resembling a switchblade. My heart surged a bit as I thought of how ignoble it would be to be shanked in an Indonesian bathroom before I even left the airport. Rather, the blade switched open revealing a comb. He combed his locks as if this was a normal accoutrement in grooming; I went to the urinal feeling it was safe to turn my back to him. The Balinese Fonz wasn’t going to ask me to rumble.

I left the building and encountered two sensory details that would trail us for the week: the smell of clove cigarettes and requests to drive us somewhere. The cloves didn’t bother me, but I was tired of transportation offers by the time our hotel picked us up.

Bali part 2: Kuta

We stayed in our first place in Kuta for three nights. This is a hectic place where all of the Australian party kids hang out. There is a mall, a waterpark, stores everywhere, etc. I’m not complaining too much, since there were two Starbucks in walking distance. I think the baristas recognized us. Kuta was OK, but by the second day, we were ready to go somewhere else in Bali. We hired a guy named Hero to drive us around the island. How can you go wrong with this name?

The Monkey Forest

We packed and went to our second destination at Ubud, an inner-island town known for its art and crafts. On the way there, we went to a monkey forest where disease-infected primates climbed on us and begged for food. We had fun and left unscathed, but I though we’d have a much better story if I were bitten and had to spend a week in a Balinese hospital fighting off rabies and tetanus caused from the rusty scalpels, all while wondering why Kristie decided to go surfing instead of visiting me. I’d dream about Starbucks and typing the letter home and how’d I explain the situation to friends and family who’d have already grown tired of hearing about our experiences overseas.

Bali part 3: Ubud

Our hotel in Ubud was incredible; this was the place I sent pictures to you already. It had a nice courtyard outside our of room. The town was pretty nice with lots of shopping. I found a few used bookstores to look at. The worst part was easily all of the hawkers trying to sell us a ride. We’d walk down the road to look at the shops and a guy would yell from across the street, “Transport?” while mimicking holding and driving a steering wheel. I wanted to scold him that proper driving hand placement is at 10 and 2, not 7 and 5. You’d think I’d get into an imaginary car with him? No thanks. This didn’t end there. A group of three or four young guys would be sitting on the curb smoking cloves and one would ask, “Transport?” I’d say, “No, thanks.” The second guy in the cadre would then ask, “Transport?” This scenario continued throughout the entire walk. By the end, twenty-five to thirty guys offered us “transports.” I stopped trying to be kind in my declining.

Our friend said he starting giving them numbers. The offer was made, “Transport?” Kirk said, “You’re number one.” “Transport?” “Number two.” He got to number 33 before going to lunch. One his return to the hotel, he was offered again, and asked their number. “Transport?” “What number are you?” “I number 13.” One guy responded to him, “I no number. I helicopter.” I’m not really sure what the Balinese man meant by this exactly, but it was pretty funny.

While in Ubud, we went to another monkey farm. Again, sadly, we were fine and were not bitten. We were taken for suckers by a Balinese man posing as an impromptu (and unwelcomed) tour guide. He showed us the four clans of monkeys, the cemetery where his family was buried (yeah, sure), and a temple. He reached behind the altar and pulled out a small envelope. I thought it was going to be a sacred relic that Indiana Jones would surely search for if he knew it existed; rather, it was postcards that he wanted us to buy. I politely declined, and he said, “Go now” with Hindu authority as he tucked the cards back into their sacred resting place. Kristie and I left the temple to watch more monkey antics.

The Cockfight

While driving around outside of Ubud, Hero pulled the van over and asked if we wanted to see a cockfight, which I guess are pretty commonplace for Bali. I wanted to for some reason, a reason that I will continue to elude me especially when I wake up from those nightmares. It was a scene, to be sure. Lots of screaming, betting, excitement. The ringman took bets as the two owners preps the roosters. The birds each have a metal razor blade tied to one of their feet. The fight starts and ends in about ten seconds. The birds try to block the other, while slicing his opponent with the blade. The loser is crippled and lies there shaking and bleeding. The money changes hands and a young man picks up the still alive bird and throws him to an old man. I went over to him to watch. He is in charge of killing, plucking, etc. He sat on the cement that was filled with blood and feathers, and chopped away. He worked with assembly-line aloofness. Another fight was beginning, and I felt sick and sad. I know that I eat chicken, but this was different. I felt a bit ashamed of wanting to go to watch. I got back in the van and ate noodles the rest of the day.

"You Gotta Know When to Hold 'Em"

At a coffee shop, we were playing cards and the guy who work there marveled at the way we shuffle cards (interlace and bridge). If you don’t know, Asians have a different way to shuffle, something I learned years ago working at Turnaround school. I tried to show him how to do it, and he said, “You King of Gambler.” That’s me, the King of Gambler. Kenny Rogers, look out.

Bali part 4: Lovina

The third and final place was in Lovina, a beach town on the north of the island. This was another beautiful hotel, this time with our room on the ocean. The hotel had an open-air restaurant that was also on the ocean. This was perhaps the best part of the trip. For three days, we sat on the beach, read, ate lots of food, played cribbage, walked into town, got massages, and snorkeled. One morning, we got on a boat to watch the dolphins. It was a perfect ending for the trip. There were no Starbucks, but no cockfights either.

We left Lovina on Friday at 1 pm to drive to the airport. We had delays everywhere on the way home. We eventually made it home to our house in Korea at 12 pm the next day.

In case you ask, yes, it was all worth it.

More Stuff:

My web gallery with more pictures: http://www.mrcoia.com/bali/bali.html
Video of monkeys and a bit of the cockfight (no gore): http://www.mrcoia.com/bali/bali.mov

I Could Have Been a...

Here's my final message regarding the quiz show. If you'd like to see it, it is online : Click Here.

This will take you to a login in page. For the username and password, use ronkristie . The show is around 40 minutes. If you want to see us doing well (including the 80's movies round), watch the first half. If you want to see us making fools of ourselves, watch the second half.

This following pic is from the second round. Looks like an easy question, right? It is my worst moment, as I, for some strange reason, answer, "Tornado."

Crowds

It is crowded in Korea, and it is perhaps one of my least favorite things about living here. Everyone pushes past my personal space, which seems to increase in girth as I grow older.

Our trip to Seoul to visit an open-air market illustrated this for me. I only have pictures of the crowds, but check out Kristie's blog for cool pics of the market itself.


There's a caption to be written for this one, but I just can't think of the perfect line. He had his costume head half-off/half-on, the way we hold sunglasses that aren't being used, and he was drinking a soda. When I tried to stealthily snap a picture of the scene, he quickly put his head on. Perhaps he has a contract to follow.

There was an author signing books in this bookstore. He had quite the following, with a line backed up outside. Unfortunately, I have no idea who he is or what his book is. I asked someone who worked there and if the book had an English title. She said, "No."

On the Site

Our Quiz Show Experience

If it is true that we all have 15 minutes of fame, I hope that appearences on Korean TV do not count.

We didn't do so well, let me start with that. We got there, signed in, went to make-up, lunch, then sat in a briefing on the rules. We went to the studio. Kristie and I were up to play another pair, and the winner would go on to play last week's champions.

We did well in the first round. Kristie was excellent in the 80's movies department, answering the following movie titles: Die Hard, The Breakfast Club, The Terminator, Aliens, and even Once Upon a Time in America. We felt good. We felt smart. We felt cocky. Then the game against the champions from last week...

I'm a dumb man. It seems obvious that I do not know who Dorothy from The Wizard of Oz is, or where Venezela is, or anything about any greek myths ever. We were slaughtered. Humiliated on national television. The only saving grace was that nobody watches this show. I'll tape the show and send it along to friends after the airing on Friday (appropriately, it airs on April Fools Day). Actually, if I am edited to look even dumber than I felt, the program will never reach the borders of the United States.

I may be exaggerating a bit. Kristie and I had a really fun time on the show, and we met some nice folks. We all thought that being on a Korean tv show was pretty funny. It is, isn't it?


This is taken on the bus ride home. Notice the defeat written on our faces.

I will never appear on another quiz show as long as I live. Or, at least, as long as I'm living in Korea. When we get to Italy, perhaps I'll give it another try.

Movie Trip to Seoul 3/25

A group of teachers went up to Seoul after school on Friday to see a Korean movie. Here are some pics.

Current Netflix

Here's what I have on my DVD player:

Paths of Glory
Gallipoli
Taxi Driver
Modern Times
The Motorcycle Diaries (on its way)

I'm reading Sophie's World (Jostein Gaarden) and The Moviegoer (Walker Percy).

Do you care?

The Contenders

Kristie and I are going to be on a Korean game show this week.

When I arrived here, I found a Jeopardy rip-off on an English-speaking Korean channel. It’s called "The Contenders," and it pits English speakers against other English speakers in a trivia contest. Kristie and I joked about how funny it would be to appear on the show. After a few more viewings, I found the entry form online, and, last week, we received an email to come to Seoul.

This past Friday, we went for the pre-taping interview. We had to fill out forms, listen to the rules, and take a test. Now, we return to Seoul this Tuesday for the taping at 11:30 am.

It’s all pretty funny to us. While the show is in English and the questions are similar to American shows, there is cheesiness in it, as the hosts speak in almost-good English with the guests.

Example:

Host: “This “boy” had his start in London nightclubs before gaining popularity with such hits as “I’ll Tumble for You” and “Karma Chameleon.”

Player: “Boy George.”

Host: “Yes, that is correct. Did you ever listen to Boy George’s music? Is that how you knew that answer?”

Player: “Not really.”

Co-Host: “I come from the generation that listened to Boy George, so I did listen to him.”

[uncomfortable silence, as the four players and the host gently nod waiting for the co-host to end this torturous coming-of-age story so play can resume.]

Kristie and I are a team, facing one other team. If we will, we get a trip to Juju Island in Korea. If we win a second time that day, we win a trip to Japan.

There is a portion of the game where one of us has to get the other to say a password. We had the chance to pick our category from a list for the taping. On it, there was “Fairy Tales,” “Mountains,” “Water,” and “80’s Movies.” My heart jumped a beat to be on national television and receiving due credit for my extensive knowledge on 80’s movies.

There is a small crack in the firmament, though: Kristie.

As you know, my dear wife was doing many other important things in that time rather than simply watching movies, so her knowledge on the matter is a bit hazy. Therefore, this weekend has been a crash course in the revered time in the film age, 1980-1989. I put up pictures of Molly Ringwald and Anthony Michael Hall around the house. I have flowcharts of Daniel Russo’s karate moves taped to the bathroom mirror. I wrote a short dissertation on the contrasting elements of Fast Times at Ridgemont High and Porky’s. I have reenacted Tom Cruise’s underwear slide to the theme of “Old Time Rock n’ Roll” several times now. I think the kid is ready.

Whether we win or not, this is one of those fun Korean moments that we will remember. And, we receive 60,000 won each for simply appearing. I will hold back the exchange rate, just so you can wonder…

Taping is Monday at 6:30 pm, PST. Think about us, won’t you? Channel your inner-eighties Kristie’s way.

The Contenders Site:
http://www.arirang.co.kr/english/programs/contenders/intro.asp

My Blog:
http://coia.blogspot.com

Kristie’s Blog (she has cool pictures)
http://kristiecoia.blogspot.com

Customer Loyalty

I am loyal to my local video bootlegger.


I discovered his store (a cave is a more apt description) back in
August when I first arrived. It's a 10 by 20 foot store with a wall
of DVD cases on one side, the new release titles scribbled in
chalk-drawn broken english on the other, and the counter on the third
side. That's where the magic happens.


My first purchase was going to be Garden State, the
movie that finally arrived to Portland the day after I left. It was
the movie I had been wanting to see since last year at this time.
Bootlegging DVD's is wrong, I said to myself in properly judgmental
tones. But, if I could just watch Garden State...


Garden State didn't arrive for some time. Each week,
I'd ask the Korean man if it arrived. "No, try again next week." One
time, he even scribbled it out on a post-it note next to the counter.
I imagined him calling his people after I left the building. "Mr.
Kim," he'd say in hushed tones, "I need a copy of Gradin Slate from
the United States. Some American is eager for it and he will pay good
money for it." The guy on the other end will simply say, "Consider it
done."


I remember that episode of Seinfeld (episode 138: "The Little Kicks")
in which Jerry is recruited to bootleg movies in a theater. I thought
it was far fetched, but now I know that it happens. Over the past six
months, I have seen a fair share of filmed-in-a-theater movies,
complete with coughing, that guy in front whose head is too big, and
those folks who leave to early. It's the complete moviegoing
experience without Junior Mints or popcorn.


Many of the copies are distorted due to a poor filming angle or the
sound is muffled and echoey. But once in a while, one hits the bootleg
motherlode: a screener. A screener is one of those DVDs of new movies
sent to Academy Award voting members to see the movie in order to vote
on it. I guess that members are too low on the ducats to go down the
street to pay to see one of the highly discussed movies. Instead,
they get these copies somewhere to watch and vote. Somewhere along
the way (and I want to keep my blind eyes closed to it so don't offer
me any possibilities) a copy of that ends up in the dingy shop in
Songtan, South Korea.


Recently, my bootlegger has competition. A street vendor opened up a
stand about 30 yards from the store. He has the same selection, but
offers a twist in the pricing. $10 each, or, if you buy two, you get
one for free. An awfully convoluted way to say three for $20.
Especially in korean-english. It's something that Barnes & Noble does
with its bargain book inventory. Not to be outdone, my place cut
prices to $5 per disc, but took away the free preview of the disc
before you buy. It's the classic Nordstrom vs. Costco, you only pay
for services provided. Pay more and preview, or less and risk a
shoddy copy?


I must admit that I went to the street vendor to buy
Sideways and Million Dollar Baby,
but only because my place was closed. I drove home, and felt a little
guilty about it. I hope that my guy doesn't find out about it. I'd
hate to hurt his feelings.

Korean Doldrums

Transfer rounds opened this week. Teachers throughout the building are scurrying to submit to transfer to Europe. Everyone wants to go where Kristie and I want to go: Italy. Being the new kids, we can’t apply for a transfer until next year at this time. Another year in Korea for us. February and March are the doldrums months in teaching; Christmas break is over; Spring Break is forever away. On top of that, add living in cold, cold, cold, Korea. Here are a few snapshots:

1. Before school, I had a dehydrated oatmeal package that required hot water. I went downstairs to the Korean lunch ladies to ask for help. She motioned that she would put water on for me and to “come back five minute.” I returned as told, but it still wasn’t ready. I returned again, and she told me that it was almost there. I said the obvious line, “This is like waiting for water to boil.” She looked confused, said “Yes, one minute,” and I realized at that moment that Koreans do not find me funny. I should cancel the comedy tour.

2. There is a foolish rule about walking on-base with headphones in your ears. I have a difficult time obeying it with my nifty iPod. I have been yelled at three times by security police. The odd thing is that many of the gate guard police are young airmen, so I’m getting scolded by nineteen-year-olds. I want to tell them that I was in the Air Force when they were born, but I doubt that would help matters any.

3. Korea is called the “Land of the Morning Calm.” That may be, but all of that calmness is a backdrop for the most frequent sound we hear: spitting. It is by far the most disgusting aspect about living in Korea. Everyone spits. It’s not just spitting, it is the sound of producing the spit, then the sound of spitting. All ages, both genders, all classes. In the mornings, I walk to work sometimes. I get to look at little frozen mounds all the way there. Disgusting. Italians don’t spit, do they?

Here are the positive sides of things:

1. I am going to Tokyo again next week for a training on the new SAT. I’ll leave on Monday and return on Friday.

2. I began my new class, Humanities. I think I’m going to love it.

3. Kristie and I are making Spring Break plans. At this time, it will be Vietnam or Bali.

4. A new subway station was just built near our house. We can jump on there and easily go to Seoul for under $2.00. There is a closer town, Suwon, that has modern shopping. It even has a Starbucks.

5. Kristie was able to get on a military flight to Seattle last week. It’s a great deal, only $25 each way. She arrived there on Thursday, and will be heading to Portland for a short trip. She’ll return about the same time I return from Tokyo.

6. She may have already mentioned this to some of you, but she has a part-time job tutoring a woman in English and American culture. She goes twice a week, and it sounds like a good situation.


I recently started a blog at http://coia.blogspot.com , in case you are interested.

Until next time,

Ron

Life Sentence

While I'm at it, why is it that every time I go to the movies here, there is a drunk guy sitting nearby talking too loudly to his date who I'm sure doesn't want to be there with him but went anyway because it was a situation in which she needn't make idle chatter but instead can think of ways to breakup with him but doesn't quite know how because Osan is so small that she knows that she will see him everywhere and that would be uncomfortable so she agrees to go to the movies to escape her humdrum world at least for 90 minutes of peace and quiet only to have him blathering on about God-knows-what too loudly that she'd want to slink away to the concession stand and bury her head in a pile of freshly-popped popcorn and drizzle herself with butter in order to feel better about a life that is not as good as she thought it would be when she was a teenager considering the Air Force as a career, a career that the recruiting commercials lied to her about since there is not upside-down flying pilots in her life, but rather there is just this guy, this annoying fellow who seems to think that Friday Happy Hour is the highlight of his week because the club serves one-dollar drinks and the waitress there is cute and he thinks she likes him and that his girlfriend doesn't know, but she knows more than she lets on and she thinks about this listening to his beer breath talk about ridiculous comments in the opening credits, she thinks of these things and more and she feels sorry for herself, for him, and for her parents who are telling their friends how proud they are of her daughter who was able to leave the small town and see the world, but the only world that she is seeing is the 27 square miles of Osan Air Base, and more specifically her dorm room which is 10 meters squared and she shares that with a roommate who snores yet she ignores this as well and feels a wave a sadness when she thinks of her mother crying when she left last summer mainly because she lives another life today inside of a movie theater?

Being in Tokyo

As I mentioned before, Kristie and I spent a week in Tokyo, Japan,
during the beginning of December. I went to a Technology conference
there, while Kristie was the tourist.

Is it bad to say that my favorite part was visiting the Apple Store in
Ginza? It has four floors, you know.

Click here to see more pictures of our Tokyo trip.

China

See more China pictures here

We returned from China without incident. No Communist guards, no chasing, no prisons. The worst part of it all was that our tour took us to a jade factory, silk factory, and pearl factory. And if you think that is fun...

The best part of last week's trip was clearly the Great Wall. It was great. (I'm sure I am the first to make such a joke). It was an arduous climb, quite steep in many places, but it was the most enjoyable part of the trip. It was a spectacular sight.

It was a quick four days, and the lesson I learned is to not take an organized tour with a large group of co-workers. If they annoy you at work, guess what four long, tired days can do to a relationship. I'm exaggerating. Sort of.

In this group of pictures, I'm not going to try to explain them because I have forgotten what some of these things are. The Wall is obvious. If you haven't seen Kristie's pictures of China, go to her website at www.kristiecoiaphotography.com/proofs/china . She has a different set of photos than I do. She captures finer details; I took pictures of toilets. You'll see why I picked her as my favorite photographer.

The shopping on the street was an extreme sport. Vendors scream and chase and grab you to buy their knockoff products. We both bought jackets there, but it was a terrible experience. The haggling is part of it, but it is too much work. I offered $10 to her $120. She handed me a calculator and said, "Give real price, not jokey price" (please add stereotyped inflection here). "Jokey price" was my favorite phrase of the trip, saying it to the point of annoying Kristie. We got the jackets for $20 after some chasing, grabbing, and yelling. She told me that I made her cry and "she no like me, but like wife." It was the most intense place I've been (the Silk Alley Market, not Beijing as a whole), and I'm not eager to return.

Bootleg DVD's abound here. Any DVD for 89 cents. I'm not saying it's legal, it's just the way it is. There are stores for bootlegs. They are well-lit, and have salesmen approach and ask if they can help. I was handed a basket as I browsed through thousands of titles, many still playing in theaters in the States. A teacher I went with bought $300 worth, and they even gave him a receipt. I don't think anyone pays much attention to that FBI warning at the start of the movies.

I bought a set of lefty golf clubs there that are imitation Calloway's, and customs had a problem with them. I got through, but had a lecture on bringing counterfeit goods into Korea. I just needed a left-handed set; I don't know the difference between Calloway and K-Mart. OK, I do know the difference, but you understand my point.

I'm in Tokyo now. We got in yesterday at 5 pm, and now I'm waiting for Kristie to wake up so we can go exploring. My first stop is the Apple Store. Then Starbucks. Then, I maybe the Gap. I'm really trying to experience Japanese culture.

Thanks for letting me bore you with China pictures. I'll soon bore you with Japanese pictures.

Ron

Dogs, Soviets, and the Great Wall

We are settling into our apartment just fine. Still lots of unopened boxes, but now we have a room to store the stuff and our motivation weakened. Aslan is enjoying herself. There is a park next door, so we go there to toss the ball around for her. In general, Koreans are afraid of dogs bigger than a handbag, so most run when they see her. Yes, they run in the opposite direction. Some scream. I met a woman at the park and talked to her about this. She said that the reason for it is that since the dogs learn commands in English, they think the dog won't stop attacking when they say "No" in Korean. They are discriminating against my dog because she doesn't speak Korean! It's as if they think that all Americans train their dogs to attack little Asian kids. There is a school nearby, so lots of kids are around, and I try to get them to pet Aslan to not be afraid of "American" dogs. Some enjoy throwing the ball for her to retrieve. Others cry. Perhaps I'm perpetuating an unfounded fear.

Our Itinerary
Kristie and I are going to Beijing, China, over Thanksgiving. We are leaving on Thanksgiving morning and returning on Sunday evening. We are excited. It's hard to believe that I'll be on the Great Wall in two days. I want a picture of me climbing the wall and getting chased by Communist guards. That'll make a fine Christmas card.

The school is sending me to Tokyo for a technology conference on December 6-10. They pay for everything; we just buy Kristie's airline ticket for her to go also.

Over Christmas break, we are going to Hawaii for a week.

I knew that we would travel, but I didn't expect so much so soon.

Teaching
Teaching at Osan has been going well. The kids are, overall, pretty good. For classes, I teach English, U.S. History, and Psychology. I am the National Honor Society sponsor, as well as the literary magazine director. I've made four kids cry so far, and it's only second quarter.

Here's my best story: we had a unit on the Civil War which included reading, discussions, videos, etc. Lots of talk on several of the angles. They took a test on it last week with one of the questions being as follows:

____________ surrendered to ________________ to end the war.

Put in your own answer. The South surrendered to the North, Lee surrendered to Grant, whatever. One student filled it in like this:

The North surrendered to the Soviets to end the war.

I suppose that's expected when the school makes an English teacher teach History.


Here's how to call us from the States. 011-8231-667-4046.

That's all for now.

Ron and Kristie
(and the soon-to-be Korean-speaking Aslan)

My Letter to Michael Moore

Michael Moore,

Can you at least admit that you were wrong about what this country overwhelmingly wants? The polls show that. It seems that you (and others on the losing side) cannot even admit that this is the beauty of democracy: the people choose. Now, rather than accepting that Voice, you have to make excuses and attempt to diminish that Voice.

You had your voice with your documentary. People listened. I listened. I even showed bits of it to my U.S. History class. I love the fact that I live in a country in which you have the right to attack a sitting president. You were as sure as you were smug that victory was guaranteed. I can't help but suspect that you had your talking-head bit planned to recite when asked by reporters on your opinion of "the part Fahrenheit 9/11 played in electing John Kerry." I can also suspect that you realize your Best-Picture hopes were also dashed on November 3rd. How will a movie about the "ficticious" presidency of George Bush win in light the numbers and all that red on the map behind Peter Jennings's head?

Can't you admit that John Kerry lost fair and square? In light of noodles and underwear giveaways, can't you admit that you lost as well? Be as gracious and honest as John Kerry was and admit it. People in this country lean farther away from you than you care to realize. I'm not asking for you to write about how your opinions on politics were wrong. I guess I want to hear that you opinions about the political pulse of this country were wrong.

On November 3rd, 200 people in Portland, Oregon, (my state) "protested." Protested what? Fair and legal elections? Democracy? Their candidate didn't win? This seems a bit silly to me. I understand disappointment, but this seems too much. And misplaced. Get your cameras and make a new documentary about that. The great "Uprising" that took place after Bush won. When will it stop? When will people on your side be willing to accept the results? I know that your easy answer is "when Bush is gone." But is this really just about Bush? Honestly? Isn't it about squelching a Voice that differs from one's own. It seems that as a Conservative, I am automatically your enemy in your eyes and on your site and in your speaking engagements. Anything I say if automatically discounted and demonized through that filter. My voice is part of the bigger Voice that was heard on Tuesday. You need not agree with it; but you should agree that it was the Voice heard and chorused by many. And it won.

Part of the unifying of this "divided country" we hear so much about lately is for you to tolerate an opposing viewpoint. Tolerance begins with acceptance.

Respectfully,

Ron Coia

Kristie Arrives Today

In case you didn't already know, Kristie arrives in Seoul in a few hours. I'm excited, but also a bit nervous. Isn't that strange? Maybe I'm afraid she won't like me anymore since I've gained about 110 lbs of kimchee weight, and I've tattooed the Korean flag on my back.

Korea puts a man through many changes.

I saw "Bring it On" twice, you know

Strange Moment of the Week
A few girls from one of my classes asked me to be the sponsor for the cheerleading squad. I laughed. What is this? Last year, I was approached to be the sponsor for the Hip-Hop Dance Club. Perhaps I exude an air of rhythm and fancy footwork, but I don’t realize it. It is possible that while I’m explaining semicolons or metaphors, there is some kid in the back thinking, “Boy, I bet that guy really has some moves. It’s too bad he can’t help us win the All-State Competition next month.”

Maybe I’m in the wrong profession. It is funny to picture me involved with cheerleading. Maybe I can be the guy that all of the girls throw up in the air. I’ll do a few backflips, then land with some brilliant flourish. I’m small-framed, so I could theoretically do that. No, I doubt the sponsors get involved with the tosses. I could, though, try to teach a difficult move that I know the girls couldn’t perform. I’ll throw my clipboard down in mock-frustration and say, “OK, girls, let me show you how it’s done. Put me up.” After several mid-air tumbles, the applause¬–and their hopes for winning the competition–would rise and fill the gymnasium.

I said no, I cannot be the sponsor for the team. I just can’t bear to think about the looks on their faces if they didn’t win State. They would have worked too hard to lose. I’ll practice my tumbles and think about next year.

Breakfast and the ATM

(currently listening to a conversation about teachers)
I walked to base to have breakfast. I still haven’t found a Korean place that serves eggs. I’m not interested in kimchee for breakfast. I stopped at the base bank to withdraw some cash. As I was leaving the ATM, a woman stopped me and gesticulated toward the machine. She motioned to me that she wanted help to withdraw $500.00 from her checking account. She demonstrated this by “writing” the amount on the machine edge. I helped and entered the amount. By this time, I realized that she not only didn’t speak English, she was also deaf. We finished that transaction, and she needed help with another card. She wrote on the machine that she needed $400.00 from another card, this time savings. She was very kind and thankful for my assistance.

I thought about how hard it would be to be in an environment with a language that you do not speak as well as being deaf. It put perspective into being an outsider.

My musing ended when I started to think that I could have been helping her in some illegal activity. Security police won’t be interested in my thoughts on being an outsider.

Living Without Living

(currently listening to The Minus 5)
I just returned from seeing “Collateral.” Even if you haven’t seen it, you probably know the premise: Tom Cruise plays a hit man who forces Jamie Foxx to drive him around the city. The main story is mediocre, typical bad huy-good good chases and gunshots. However, there is another story working that I enjoyed far more. Jamie Foxx’s Max is paralyzed with not doing what he wants, and he convinced himself that the past twelve years of driving taxis is a temporary job. Vincent chides him for not doing that which he really wants. While Max criticizes Vincent for senseless killing, Vincent makes a case for existentialism in that nothing really matters. Killing a man in an apartment is no different than 10,000 Rwandans dying in one day. Nobody notices. They both criticize the other for not really living: Vincent in his morally corrupt occupation, Max in his dead-end one.

I could continue, but this is not a movie review. I felt a connection to this message of living without living. I have been inwardly complaining about some aspects of my current situation here in Korea. As the sign states on the subway in the concluding scene in the movie, “Life is too short.”

Seventeen Years Ago

Seventeen years ago today, I left home to join the Air Force. I have forgotten so many of the details on that trip, but what I do remember is that I felt a bit like an adult. I had a suitcase and a plane ticket, both very grown-up items.

I usually remember this date. This year is different. I left seventeen years ago when I was seventeen. I have lived outside of Rhode Island as long as I lived in it. A turning point. Equal. Halved. It’s like the glass that caused debate on its fullness or emptiness.

The Outsider

Today is another day of questioning this decision. I am an outsider here is many ways, and it is uncomfortable. Being an outsider among Koreans is the easy, expected one. I think I can deal with being an American how doesn’t speak Korean; I’ve played a similar role when I lived in Germany. Being an outsider in the local economy is nothing new. Sure it’s uncomfortable, but in a fun way. Far worse than that is how I feel as an outsider with the other teachers at the high school. Ever since I have arrived, I felt passed over by others as if I had blood on my door. I am not receiving the same treatment I think the others are getting from the established teachers. I can’t explain it, but it appears that I am being ignored. I felt a similar feeling when I arrived at Clackamas, but that is so much different. Here, I need people to help me, rather than simply making friends. With the exception of a few people, the staff doesn’t seem interested in getting to know me. I’m not looking for a sleepover invitation for Christmas morn, just a few kind words. The principal knows little about me (she talked about the school’s strengths the entire time) and hasn’t tried. I was in her office on Monday to have a chat, but she talked about how great Osan High School is.

If one more person tells me that Osan’s students are the best, and how I’ll never have an experience like this again, and whatever other cult-sounding phrases I have heard more times than I’ve seen trash in the streets, I’m going to scream.

The Church Visit

I visited the local American church, Mission Baptist Church with unfavorable results. It was the standard blend-it-all-together-so-that-a-message-is-difficult-to-see type of place. I walked to the church and sat in the back. The pastor beelined his way to me with a heavy southern drawl in tow and let me know that he “was so happy that I could visit today.” The associate pastor (I immediately knew that he was the associate pastor because his drawl was inferior to the first guy) followed up to greet the poor wanderer who came in from the wilderness. A Korean couple sat next to meet, but we carefully avoid eye and physical contact.

Here’s the measure of a church, plain and simple. This is the yardstick in which everything else is measured: how does a church welcome visitors. If the pastor stands up and gives a warm, toothy greeting to people who made it in for the first time, then that is a church I’m eager to continue learning about. If the pastor in any way makes me stand up in front of 100 other people to say my name, then I will not go back. In this simple test lies the heart and soul of sound doctrine. I think you already know which church this is.

During the pleading to stand and introduce yourself to a crowd of people who will not even attempt a stab at memorizing your name, I sat silent. But, they had these damned name tags. I didn’t have one so that labeled me. My bare chest was my Star of David awaiting persecution. The Korean lady turned to me and said, “Is this your first time?” I nodded, then she said, “You can stand up and introduce yourself.” I said, “No thank you,” as if she offered me another helping of chimsee. “Go ahead,” she urged. I replied, “I don’t want to.” She then broke all kinds of social ettiqutte when she waved to the back at the pastor while tapping me on the back with her other hand. She was flagging down the head pastor as if it the Gospel Ship was leaving station and she was in the snack bar. I turned to her and in my mean-yet-quiet voice said, “Please stop that.” She followed my command and faced forward looking for other visitors.

We shook hands during the greeting part of the service (that was after eviscerated choruses and before the sermon on “Great Leaders are Humble Servants”), but continued avoiding each other. After the final greeting was pronounced, I turned left out of the pew and headed for the exit door. She called out to me, “See you next Sunday.” I cursed with my smile.

Seat 14J to Seoul, Korea

I’m in seat 14J in Business Class behind a set of rambunctious twins around five. Why are they up here? They belong in Economy torturing those saps back there. Perhaps a more fitting question is why am I up here? Not in Business Class in front of the behind-the-curtain seats(mileage upgrade), but why am I am a plane going to Korea, a country of which I know nothing? I’m leaving a group of friends that I greatly enjoy, a city that has become my home over the past 13 years, a teaching position that I felt I was really growing into, not to mention leaving my wife behind for three months. Kristie and I talk about how these last couple of years have been our happiest days; we are contented by our current life, not grumbling about needed a change from work, the weather, or people. So I’ll ask once again, why am I sitting in 14J next to Alfred the German software company vice president filling out custom forms watching the brats throw the United Comfort Pack around in their overstuffed chairs?

I don’t know.

At times, I’m a hypocrite. I like to think that I one of those adventurous types, wanting to travel and see and experience. That’s what I tell my Rhode Island people back there. I left Rhode Island when I was 17 to join the Air Force. I never thought that I was an adventurous before that, I just wanted to do something cool. As I told many times since, that plane trip to San Antonio, Texas, began an altered course for my life. It was a trajectory that took me far away from the ordinary. Let me go back to my blatant hypocrisy: I am pretty ordinary. I like being a home with Kristie and I shy away from major disruptions in my routine. As Kristie or other close friends can attest, I become out-of-sorts during major moves, decisions, or even projects around the house. I’m afraid of all the aspects that can go wrong. Even as I type, I fear the problems in getting a house in Korea, Kristie not being able to rent out our own house, Aslan being able to get enough exercise, etc.

I think the reason I like the unknown future is because I’m uncertain and afraid of it. It’s a titillating feeling that could be psychopathically deviant if it were applied to other areas of life. The uncertainty is alluring to me. The fact that I don’t know anything about the country in which I’m going to live for two years, or whether I’ll enjoy the new school, or if I’ll make some good friends makes this one of those trajectory points. I’m not sure what my opinion of Korea will be in two years, but I’m quite certain that the path of our lives will be altered some. A slight angle at the point of trajectory will, of course, grow into a larger angle as the line lengthens. If this were Math class, a diagram would help.

The brats are watching Garfield: The Movie. I even dislike their movie choice. Enough of that. The flight attendant brought a dish of warm nuts and a glass of Merlot, the humble offerings of a new trajectory.